• Home
  • Contact
  • (802) 258-8182
  • Login

Justice Coaching Center Logo

We coach executives through isolation and vulnerability challenges.

We coach leadership teams to co-create the organizations they aspire to lead.

We teach professionals how to coach and support their colleagues.

  • Coaching People
    • Leadership Coaching
    • Team Coaching
    • Individual Coaching
  • Consulting
    • Assessment for Hiring and Succession
    • Talent Development
    • Strategic and Tactical Planning
    • Coach Training and Certification
  • Justice Systems
    • Assessment and Evaluation
    • Caseflow and System Management
    • Education, Training, and Coaching
  • Coaching Corner Blog
  • Our Resources
    • Our Philosophy
    • Coaches / Consultants
    • Our Business Alliances
    • Testimonials
  • Our Services
    • Resiliency Coach Training
    • Communities Collaborating
  • Home
  • Coaching Corner Blog
  • I Hate Golf !@#!!

Sometime in the Future

  • Jan Bouch
  • April 27, 2015
Sometime in the Future

Recently I was listening to a radio interview where the interviewee spoke about unfulfilled expectations. Expectations are interesting constructs.

Specifically, the New Oxford American Dictionary defines expectation as a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future.

When I was a young girl, my expectations were not unlike most young girls. I expected to go wedding dress shopping with my mother with all my cut outs from Bride Magazine. I expected that I would find my one true love, and we would have a large fairy tale wedding. I expected that I would have children, many of them. I expected to be shielded from hurt, disappointment, grief, and illness. I expected to not experience the loss of a parent until I reached old age. I expected that I would feel happy most of the time. And so it goes…

Well, the truth is I never tried on a wedding dress. My first wedding dress came from a thrift shop. Oh yeah, disappointment when my first marriage ended in divorce. My second wedding took place in the backyard of a friend’s home – fairy tale, yes – but certainly not large.

Instead of children, I had early lessons grieving many child losses. Then the big one – sudden death of my father.

Remarkably though, my unfulfilled childhood expectations gave me an unanticipated gift of a happy life. It is not the life I dreamed about as a young girl; it’s different and better. My one true love came with a second marriage. Children – well, I’ve had the joy (and the pain) of being a stepmother and now a step-grandmother. Loving children and grandchildren brought into the world by someone else in no way diminishes my love and relationships with the family I was gifted.

We all hold assumptions and expectations about what could and should be. The truth is, when we can hold up our expectations for examination we may find  the ones we thought would happen instead gave us greater insight and appreciation. What is out there for you when you think about your expectations? What could be out there for you if you set aside your assumptions and expectations and let the world just unfold with you?

 

 

 

Consulting: Strategic Planning
  • Share
  • Tweet
  • Share
  • Share
 

Ready to Get Started? Contact Justice Coaching Center

Please complete all required fields!

Please enter your name

Please enter your email

Invalid Input

Invalid Input

{Comment:caption}
{Comment:body}{Comment:validation}

{Comment:description}

Recent Blogs

  • Be Kind and VOTE Sep, 2021
  • Resiliency Coach Training Dec, 2020
  • ICF Accreditation for our Resiliency Training Program Jul, 2020
  • In the Time of Tumult May, 2020
  • Assumptions! Mar, 2020
  • Gratitude Dec, 2019

Filter Articles By Topic

Accountability Coaching People: Individual Coaching People: Leadership Coaching People: Team Consulting: Talent Development Decision-Making Development Goal Achievement Justice Systems: Evaluation Purpose and Vision

Justice Coaching Center Logo

We believe that individuals can examine their thoughts and actions; we have confidence that individuals are capable of change; we believe that we all want to be the best we can be, regardless of the challenges. We trust in the human spirit and our inherent goodness. We are the Justice Coaching Center. 

 
 
 
 

STAY INFORMED

Sign up here to receive the latest from The Coaching Corner Blog directly in your email.
Please wait
Try again

Let's Be in Touch

Justice Coaching Center
7588 Froman Ave.
Boise, ID 83714

(802) 258-8182  |  Jan C. Bouch
(802) 258-8181  |  Stephen Bouch
Contact Us

 

Our Business Alliances

The Justice Management Institute Aha Insight

Vital Leadership is a Business Alliance of the Justice Coaching Center

 
Back to top